June 2, 2024
I suppose it’s well past time for me to finally check back in here. Sincere apologies to those who have asked for more updates; I realized after the first month that this whole experience was intended to be about living in the moment(s), and that trying to share all the small details was a bit exhausting. I know I’ll appreciate looking back on these posts in the future, so I just have to find the right balance. You can probably expect sporadic, random, brain dumps from here on out lol. And if you just want quick, ongoing highlights of my travels, I will continue to post regularly through social media. Which, by the way, does help me feel connected to friends and family who are so far away. Your comments and chats mean the world to me. The time difference can be tough, but please keep reaching out!
Anyway, this post will be a bit different from the first few. I’m not going to describe all the amazing experiences I have been having – there have been waaaaay too many! I’ll just give you a few sentences to sum up April/May:
April in Cape Town was all about living like a local. I got the quiet I needed, while still exploring lots of new places and meeting great people. I climbed another mountain, tried a cold plunge, and continued my wine research. I was very sad to leave, and that city will always hold a special place in my heart. Enkosi, South Africaš

I spent the first two weeks of May in Turkey, which is also a really beautiful country. Istanbul took a few days to grow on me (bad weather didn’t help), but in the end it won me over. But what stole my heart in Turkey was a small seaside town called Cesme. I fell hard for this cute little village, and I can totally picture settling down in a place just like it. I would probably have stayed indefinitely if I wasn’t meeting up with the fabulous Tanya Barr in Spain.

Ohhhh Spain… you never disappoint. Four hectic, hilarious days in Barcelona set the tone for our two-week girls trip. From there we had a more relaxing five days at the beach near Valencia. And finally we spent four glorious days in La Rioja, doing our best to taste as many wines as possible. It was SUCH a treat to have a friend from home join me on my journey, and we really did have the greatest time. I also got to reconnect briefly with some of my Remote Year people, which was a nice bonus! I’ll admit that I’m exhausted from all the shenanigans and moving around so much though. I keep forgetting I’m not young anymore lol.

Now it’s June and I am settled in a small coastal city on the Albania Riviera called Vlore. I am on my own in a cute little apartment just a block from the beach. It’s beautiful and quiet here (for now), and both the weather and the people are (mostly) warm. I’m currently enjoying the peace and relaxation, but I will need to make some friends or it might be a long six weeks. Somebody come visit me!

So that’s the Coles Notes of the last two months or so. I also feel like sharing some feelings and personal insights at this point. Feel free to jump out here if that’s not what you signed up for lol.
Here goes:
I am currently in my fourth month of travel, and I already feel like a new person. Well, maybe not new, but reborn. This positive and serene energy I’m feeling was exactly what I was hoping for when I started this crazy adventure. Don’t get me wrong, some days are better than others, and there have been challenges along the way. I’m not trying to paint a fake-perfect picture here. I did trip on a sidewalk and fall spectacularly on my face (I caused a kind passerby some real concern, and picked up a few good bruises). I also have a “low” day about once a month, where I miss my kids terribly, and wonder am I being selfish? But I can honestly say that I feel no stress – I am fully immersed in the belief that whatever happens is supposed to happen, and that I can get through anything that comes my way. I can’t describe in words how this mindset has elevated my mental health (ask Tanya – she just spent two weeks with me in my “bubble”). I want to keep this feeling with me wherever life takes me – and I hope that is a realistic goal. For anyone worried about me at home (you know who you are), you can stop. I am really good, and I will be ok. Come see for yourself if you don’t believe me.

Also, every day I am learning and growing, which I think is at the root of my happiness. Sometimes I have to push past old habits, and some days it just comes easy. Either way, there is always something new as a reward for the effort. Here’s a sample of some of the cool things I have discovered (or confirmed) so far:
-In general, I feel happier and more like myself in a smaller, quiet town, rather than a big, bustling city. Who knew?!
-I also love to be near water; the next place I settle down in will have a deck or patio with a water view
-I genuinely enjoy meeting new people and learning about their lives; but also I NEED to be alone sometimes
-How to say hello, thank you, yes/no, cheque please, and (of course) wine, in five different languages
-I’m ok not doing all the things (my only fomo is around friends/family at home)
-Peeing in sudden darkness is a thing (and you get used to it)
-I do indeed love change (thank you Callum, for reminding meš„°)
-Airport lounges and airline upgrades are worth every penny
-South African wine is incredibly underrated. And, there is some surprisingly good wine being made in Turkey!?
-When I listen to my gut/heart things tend to go well
-How did we ever survive without Google Translate? (ok this one is more of a musing than a learning)
-I don’t feel like working anymore (this will surprise nobody)
-Anywhere in the world, an Irish pub feels like home
-Amarula and coffee slushies are like ecstasy in a cup
-I need to stop taking electricity and clean drinking water for granted
-If you exude positive energy, you will get it in return. Even from strangers on the street. Try it!
-There are soooo many amazing travel apps and communities out there
-I actually really like some things about myself (Iām working on acknowledging this)
-I think I might be addicted to this travel thingā¦
There is so much more, but suffice to say: so far this journey is everything I had hoped for and more. Who knows how the next few months will go, but I really hope the adventure just keeps getting better and better. I love and miss all the people who are supporting me from afar. This might seem like a crazy thing to some of you, but just know that it is exactly the right thing for me right now.
Love to all, and I canāt wait to see you whenever and whereverā¤ļø
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